About relationships and vibrations
Have you thought about the importance of tuning in the management of relationships? As all biological (living) particles have a vibratory rate (because they are animated by an energy), as a human being, we also have a vibration resulting from the vibration of all the components (mental, emotional, physical, psychic). The higher the vibratory rate (measured in Bovis units), the better the state of health (physical, psychological and psychic). In relationships, the more the parties in a relationship have vibratory rates in similar zones, the more harmonious the relationship will be; this is like a radio: tuning. It is easily done and adjusted. Be careful! A person can adjust his tuning downwards (to adjust to a lower vibration than his own, the opposite is not possible, at least not quickly!)
Relationships and vibrations – The impacts
If there is not a good tuning between the vibratory rates, the quality (harmony) of the relationship will be affected. Here are some typical cases which obviously assume that there has been no adjustment on the part of the person with a higher vibratory rate. Beware, a higher vibratory rate is not related to the level of IQ (intelligence quotient) or EQ (emotional quotient).
|Person A (leader)||Person B (follower)||Impacts|
|High ++||High +||Profitable exchanges; average to good results; little friction.|
|High +||High ++||Fairly profitable exchange; risk of frustration from B; possible dissatisfaction.|
|High||Medium / low||One-way exchanges; possibility of arrogance; impact of B’s self-confidence.|
|Medium / low||High||Authoritarianism (A); little participation (B); disinterest/lack of appropriation (B).|
|Low||Medium / high||Strong authoritarianism/arrogance (A); no creativity; poor to bad results.|
|Low / medium||Low||Good understanding, friendly relationship; satisfactory results for both parties.|
When the vibrations are in the tuning zone on both sides, the exchange will normally be fruitful and harmonious and will leave both parties with a feeling of having “good communication in a good relationship”.
How to know the vibratory rate of the interlocutor
Listen to your intuition and your feelings about the person you are talking to. They are never wrong! If there is some kind of discomfort, emotions lacking in desire, it is because you feel that there is no tuning, the relationship has “parasites” on the line! Most of the time, there is no reception (we hear, but we don’t listen). Then it is up to you to assess whether the person has a lower or higher vibration. Note that if you determine condescension, arrogance, superiority, it is, most of the time, a sign of someone who hides his true vibration as part of a “role”! As in someone who plays a game to give the illusion of who they are. This situation is often found in professional relationships with someone in a position of authority who has reached a level of incompetence. It is particularly painful when the level of incompetence is reached as a result of an over-inflated ego (these are toxic relationships). This is the case with dictators or authoritarian leaders. A person who vibrates at a “real” high level will normally adjust or withdraw.
How to adjust your vibration to optimize your relationship
It is up to the person with a high vibration to adjust; the increase in vibration is linked to a healthy lifestyle (physical, mental, emotional, psychic, spiritual), it cannot be improvised. On the other hand, adapting to a lower vibration is relatively easy. It is an approach similar to the one used to communicate with a young child: we adjust the language, we use common words, we formulate simpler sentences, we simplify elaborated concepts, we listen with attention, we look with attention, we use verification techniques (reformulation, clarification), we increase the non-verbal, we increase the positive and comforting feedback.
Relationship Effectiveness: A Question of Wholeness
Educated in societies rooted in separative approaches (defensive, egotistical, based on confrontation and evaluation or judgement of the other), we are generally victims of an environment that leads us to be poor “relationalists”.
The quality of relationships depends greatly on an integrative attitude and behavior. Relationships occur “between” two people, and to approach relationships from a separate point of view, from the “me” to “I” perspective creates a barrier in the unconscious or subconscious. It is where you experience relational difficulties. The relational quality, on the contrary, requires consciously breaking down barriers, being open to the interlocutors, actively listening, being open to consensus, etc. These are holistic attitudes and behaviors based on integration and union.
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